How many women out there will read the title and say to themselves “the struggle is real” and it’s because it is. My experience has always been from a working mom’s perspective so I will speak to that. I won’t pretend that I can speak as much for the stay-at-home moms because that’s a whole different set of challenges and I admire my friends who choose to do that.
Right now my children are 9, 6 and 2 years old, I’ve got two in elementary school and one in daycare. Between drop offs, pickups, extracurricular activities, doctors appointments and all sorts of social events, my husband and I often think how on earth we keep it all together, let’s not forget that we both work full-time. The part that gets challenging is creating a balance, I struggle with that personally. I often see and share the pressure we put on ourselves to be good employees and perfect mothers. The reality of the situation is that it’s not realistic to put so much pressure on yourself!
So how do I balance it all? I simply try and don’t give up, some days are better than others. My children are my priority but so is my career that I’ve spent over 10 years building. Here are some strategies I use to maintain my sanity as a working mom.
- Set a morning routine for getting everyone out of the house on time.
- Be present, when you’re with your family focus on them. We live in the digital age so we’re attached to our phones 24/7, try to unplug for a bit.
- Get rest, I’ve been fortunate that all my children were good sleepers from infancy, getting 7-8 hours of sleep is critical to productivity at work.
- Learn how to say “no” to some social invitations. In our house, each child is allowed to attend one birthday party per month otherwise we’d spend our entire weekends shuttling them between parties.
- Self care! Having some alone time to recharge your batteries is so important. Something as simple as being out of the house for an hour to get a manicure goes a long way.
From one working mom to another, you’ve got this!